Monday, July 28, 2008


We've just spent the weekend with some very good friends of ours who now live in the D.C. area. It was such a great time of catching up and sharing the current things going on in our lives. Even though we don't talk often over the phone or through email, it is one of those friendships where we pick up right where we left off. I love that about our friendship. They are the kinds of friends that would be there for us and we would be there for them. No matter what.

I see how God has brought friends into my life over the years for different reasons. I have friends that have been part of my life for a long time. The friends that challenge me, encourage me, pray for me, and know my heart. Then I have friends that I know God has brought into my life for just a season. It doesn't lessen how I value their friendship, but their friendship has just been for a time. I am incredibly thankful and have been blessed by the women that have come into my life throughout the years. There are new friendships in my life right now too. Getting acquainted with one another, finding out the common interests, and doing things together that are growing the connection between us. I've also gone through times when I have been alone and my heart has cried out asking Him to just bring that special friend into my life. Through those times He has so tenderly shown me He alone is my best friend. No one else can take the place in my heart I was wanting to fill with a friend more than He can. When the time has been right, He has faithfully brought them into my life. I know that God places a high importance on friendships. He wants us to be surrounded with people who love and care for us, people we can laugh with and to go through this thing called life together. 

My best friend happens to be my sister. The five year age difference has never mattered, even when we were little. From the day my parents brought her home as a baby, she was my best friend. As the "big" sister, I really don't remember ever not liking her or wanting her around. Being apart from each other was hard. Whether it was when it was time for me to go in on recess or when we went to bed at night (she would sneak into my room and get in bed with me), we couldn't wait to be together again. As adults, our friendship continues to deepen and grow.  I know that having a best friend that also happens to be my sister is a treasure. Sarah is coming to visit this weekend and just like when we were little, we can hardly wait to see each other. There isn't anything she doesn't know about me. She knows what I'm thinking, she finishes my sentences, she knows when something just isn't right. She knows how to encourage me and knows when to push me. True and best friends know how to do that. 

All of this has made me think about what kind of friend I am and what kind of friend do I want my children to be. I pray that my children are surrounded by friends that are going to build them up and encourage them to make the right choices. Do I also pray that my children are a friend to the child in the class who may not have a friend in the world? Am I loyal and trustworthy? Do I share in the victories and struggles that my friends are going through? Does my heart hurt when theirs does? Would I be a friend that they would call in their time of need because I am dependable? Do I make myself available to them and do they know what their friendship means to me? Do I make time for my friends or just "fit" them into my schedule? Am I a friend that loves at all times?

 In this world of busyness and often getting so wrapped up in our own lives, it's easy to not take the time to nurture and develop friendships. I don't want to miss out on memories that are made with friends, lessons learned from friends, or how God is using this friend to change and grow me. I also have the opportunity to make an impact in their life in a way no other person can. Am I allowing God to use me as a friend?

 So, today as we said good-bye to our friends, I am thankful for the time that was spent with them and look forward to the next. I'm going to celebrate the friendships that I have been given by the One and True Friend.


  1. Beautiful! Can't wait until Thursday!

  2. I've read some of your other posts. You are an excellent writer. Your posts are very meaningful.

  3. Hey Christy! With my bff, Jill moving...God and I have been doing A LOT of talking. Similar to what you are saying. He has brought some incredible women into my life over the last five years. I have NEVER had friends like this before. Ever. And I think it is because I was never a friend like that before. And I wasn't when he brought these women into my life. They helped grow me :) And yes, I realize that I have helped them to grow, as well (just not always certain it was in the "healthy" direction although they swear it is!)

    God has reminded me the last few weeks that He alone is the One I am to rely on, to turn to. The other's...they're just gravy. It's something we're trying to teach our children. God first and only will ALWAYS be there. Family second and maybe not always so reliable...but we're helping them to BE the reliable.

    Great post, as always.

  4. I live in the DC area too. Moved here a couple years ago from San Diego. Hope you enjoyed your visit here.



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